Koos uses the word "sympathetic" in a way that many Europeans do
using it often to describe objects
I grew up using it only to describe a way of people being with people

he gave me this hat
saying a new one looks tacky
but an old one is sympathetic
as are old shoes, clothes, etc

for things to be sympathetic they must be broken in
worn well
lived it
affected by life
resonant

broken in
I find I am sympathetic with him
in that those I most find my attentions drawn to are those who are broken in
worn by the spirit well
creased, scuffed, frayed

how beautiful
what has be so loved by life
to be used well

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