dominicvineoftheowls (dominicvine) wrote,

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I have to tell you... I am truly hurt and need some help. i am out of a relationghip after 13yrs. Since i have beenoout basicallly. I suferd a lot of abuse. Most recetently a knife attack. We have been separated for 18 months now and we still are in contac. I do not know why i am telling you this but a i am at my wits end. I feel so poorly about myself and therapy is not working for aover a year now. I am supposed to take a pill each day but feel i have a bad auroa around me.

Do you have any suggestions?

I am sorry for bothering you but need to try something different.


Hey Guy
what's your name?

thank you for asking..

it's complex
the whole situation is a culmination of Your Life
(and possibly even stuff before hand)

if you want the pain to stop

here what i recommend

Don't take the pills
(especially if they are making you feel bad)

be conscious of what you're doing, though, to avoid your emotions
(smoking, drinking, masturbating, whatever)
that doesn't mean stop doing them
but notice WHY you do them
that will lead you back to your emotions over and over

find a way to sit with your feelings

Writing is the way i do it
but also being alone in a forest

you might go to the beach

stare at the sea
stare at the sky
(looking at nature helps more than looking at man-made things)

look outside
and feel what's going on inside

be honest with yourself
and go into all the pain

feel it
and forgive it

it's all about being honest with what's going on
(and though it's easy to blame people. it's useless... do your best to take responsiblity for your life... for everything that's happening... forgive the people that have hurt you... but it's more important to forgive yourself for letting yourself be hurt... for putting yourself in a situation to be hurt... for asking the other person to hurt you... may sound insane... but a lot of modern life is)

walk a lot
breathe fresh air

these are things i do that help clear my mind
clear my heart
and move on.

i've had a few lovers in a similar situation to you
and i know from trying and failing
that no one can really help you:
you have to do it yourself

with love and support!


ps: oh, you're sexy too
maybe i'll meet you and we'll have hot passionate sex sometime
make love

but it will be a while
i'm spending some time here nourishing myself


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