i often hear that in love we are not supposed to correct or fix eachother
just accept eachother for who we are and help eachother live...
Yeah?
well i agree to a certain extent BUT
there is no point in being in eachother's life but to enrich it -- well, maybe just witness eachother... but subtle help support.. positive loving growth!
better than just watching eachother dissapear into our nerosis... enabling our co-dependance
caught a bus from NYC up to Providence, RI got a ride from a friend of a friend of mine from there...
turns out he's a friend of many of my friends:
we're paralelle boys in the world of bears yeah another brother alright.
went to the beach went to the house cleaned out a room to make a guest room for ourselves then headed out to the town...
-- it's been a long time since i've been so agressively ignored... people would stare at me and when i felt it turned to look at them they'd look away
it became a comedy act
i commented on this to my friends and they said "oh, it's the Boston Compulsion-- everyone is so fucking insecure... generally, though, the more attitude... the more they ignore you the more they want you"
yeah, played that game before.
a guy i talked with on line before coming out here said this:
"GREETINGS DOMINIC . THANKS FOR YOUR MESSASGE . WONDERFUL PROFILE . VERY HANDSOME AND SEXY . I AM PREETY SHY WHEN IT COMES TO "CLOSING THE DEAL" SOOOO . IT WOULD BE NICE TO MEET YOU ... AND WE WILL SEE HOW WE FEEL ... I AM IN NEED OF TACTILE ATTENTION . MY TYPE "BODY" IS NOT APPRECIATED HERE ON THE PENINSULA OF BROKEN BOYS ... SO SUPERFICIAL . IT SADDENS ME AT TIMES ... IT MAKES MY DAY WHEN SOMEONE LIKE YOURSELF FINDS MEN LIKE MYSELF ATTRACTIVE . "
it instantly clicked over to "the island of broken boys" in my head which i didn't remember where that came from S said "Ruolph the Red Nose Reindeer.... you know, with Burl Ives?" both of us, syncopated, murmered "Big Daddy"